Haylsinator asked:


I’m a 19 year old female and have absolutely no sex drive. I’m on birth control and switched it once to see if it was the type of pill that was causing my low libido. It had no effect. I have no idea what’s wrong with me. I know women hit their peaks in their 30’s but I know that I should feel something or even be able to be turned on. Has anyone ever had this problem? Does anyone have any solutions? Needless to say this causes many issues in my relationship. I want to be able to show my boyfriend how attracted I am to him through sex but I can’t make my body do what my mind says. Any help or suggestions would be wonderful. Yes, I have spoken with a gynecologist about this but she told me it was stress regardless of the fact that I’m more laid back than most people. Thank you very much.
I know this isn’t the advise you want
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Theres a difference between advice and personal beliefs. Please don’t preach on my boards. I’m perfectly well aware of what I’m doing and of where I want to be.

Thanks to all of the nice answers and best of luck to the women in the same situation as me!

meC asked:


He blames this on his age and prescribed medication. Is there anything we can do to improve his libido or lower mine? When we are sexually active the sex is great, but the lack of quantity is beginning to become a problem in our relationship. We have tried enhancement drugs, but they just aren’t working. Any ideas?
I forgot to mention he is in his late 30’s and I am in my late 20’s.

killer queen asked:


i stopped taking the combi pill after 2 years due to bad side effects and extremely low libido (im 30 y.o. and cannot have low libido when i have a gorgeous hubby next to me!!). So now after 9 months of pause, i want to strat again but with the mini pill because of no hormones in it. Can anyone tell me if im doing the right thing?

Amy G asked:


I’m serious.

runnin_velle asked:


I am a married man of 10 years and have three wonderful children. I love my wife very much but she has absolutely no libido what so ever. We have talked and talked about this issue all with no resolve. I am wondering if there is anyway out there for me to lower or totally eliminate my libido so I do not want “it” anymore. I believe this with this no longer an issue in my life and our marriage we will be much happier. Any help would be greatly appreciated!

Chelsea A asked:


I’m 20 years old. I’ve only really had one sexual partner and he was my boyfriend and the person I lost my virginity to. We broke up about a year ago and I haven’t had many opportunities to have sex. WHich has been fine with me, my libido has been very low. However I’ve lately started to feel really anxious about sex. Even when things have started to move forward I get nervous and stress out about it. I recently went off birth control and am wondering if that might have something to do with it. I suffer from some pretty intense issues with my body. I was making myself sick for a while but have stopped that now. I’m just wondering if it’s a hormonal physical problem and can be corrected by adjusting something or going back on the pill or if its mental and I need look into getting counseling or coaching.

Rogue Wyndwalker asked:


Are there any women here who have suffered from a loss of libido from taking birth control? How did you deal with it? Are there any women who found ways to cope with it withOUT going OFF of birth control? Have people found that birth control that uses that different hormone (DSRVP? or something like that…) has a lower incident of causing lack of libido? Also, I experience an inability to become aroused… is that also part of this side effect?

It has been really difficult dealing with this and when I went to the doctor to discuss it, their only suggestion was to try family planning and my husband (and I) aren’t willing to take that much of a chance with getting pregnant. What should I do????

I’ve been on Depo-Provera (the shot you get every 3 months), Orth-Evra (the patch), and now I’m using Nuva Ring. All of which I have experienced this with. I have not tried the pill because I am 99 % positive that I will NOT remember to take it everyday!

Question Queen Mentally Special! asked:


Well, for me-my libido is low since I’m on medication, & I feel guilty after sex because people in our society are so repressive.

Taylor Summers asked:


so like when a guy ejaculates.. he loses the libido immediately..right? and so is his sexual desire..

and when working out really intensely, it wastes the libido that is needed for sexual desire, so you don’t feel like having sex afterward..

so in theory.. if you keep working out..or doing other things that keep your libido at the lowest level.. you won’t be able to have any sexual desire?

Dr. Schulze asked:


all over the house now that his testosterone levels are up? I was diagnosed low 4 months ago and now after 8 injections my libido is through the roof…I need it all the time.

Can any of you relate?

ps: All middle aged men should have their T levels checked. I feel 30 years old again.