I have been masturbating for last 2 years atleast daily. For last 1 year, atleast 3 to 5 times a day. I watch lot of pornographic content. For last 1 year, I am unable to maintain an erection. I have to stroke with hand to get erection and keep stroking till I reach climax. If I stop stroking with my hand, I will lose erection in about 10 sec to 1 minute. Usually i ejaculate in 10 to 20 minutes. Is it impotence. If so, is there a way to recover to my normal erections where I don’t have to stroke to get an erection. Also, if Viagra is a solution, can Viagra be taken everyday ? I have not had sex with a female.. and am 29 years old… Please advice..
It doesn’t cause impotence, but it can spoil Love making somewhat.
Dudes are visual creatures, and you don’t want to train your sex neuro pathways to respond and become dependent totally on visual.
When making Love, you are a participant, and not an observer. You don’t get to view that action, you do the action. If you are needing to see the action, that can be a handicap for you.
Start moving away from porn and working toward finding mental stimulations in still pictures, then gradually start to focus more on the feel good of your penis while jacking. Bring in some variety like using a Lube for slippery feel good! That’s more what the real thing feels like.
Start focusing on the feel good and think in your mind about you making Love to a real Living Lady who is excited over you!
If the change is difficult at first, back off from comming off for 3 days if you can go that long! On the other hand, make yourself wait that long, and by then your body will be desperate enough to work with you to try new things and like them.
It’s normal to loose hard on, if you stop stimulation. The stimulation is it’s life source.
What you want to be doing here, is building variety and getting new mental pathways built that you can go down to make real Love. You are hetero sexual, so the more pathways for that type of sex that you can use to enyoy and have real person relationship, the better off you are.
Don’t worry about needing to come off 3 or 5 times a day. Your are maxing your bodys ability to perform for you, and you are anything but impotent. You are hugely potent to kick out a wad 3 to 5 times per day every day.
If you start the Viagra thing when you are in such good shape, you will become dependent on it and think that you need it, when that is so not true!
You are hugely potent, and just have an unrealistic expectation of sex and what it should look like. Most Dudes at 29 might come off through making Love once a day, and some now and then twice.
Most of them look like 3 to 4 times a week. Lots of sex is OK, but you need to take time to mix in all of the other things in life too that you could love, like relating with real people and interaction. That makes sex more healthy as well, and you get to meet Ladies, who could fall in Love with you.
Balance makes all good and healthy.
Wanting the best of it all for you Man
Me! :- )
September 3rd, 2008 at 12:36 pm
Its not impotence its called boredom. You are bored with your current stimulation and need more. try something different. Go to jackinworld.com for masturbation ideals and techniques.
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September 3rd, 2008 at 12:38 pm
The problem is that you are masturbating everyday. When you sleep your body produces more sperm in your prostate, however hard it may be, try not to masturbate for a couple of days and when you finally do, the feeling will be much more intense, fulfilling, longer-lasting and your erection will stay up for a longer period of time. It will also take less time to achieve an orgasm.
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September 3rd, 2008 at 12:40 pm
Get a hold of yourself. I mean, get away from Porn. It has become an addiction with you. Some can use Porn as a sexual aid others like you can not. You are overcumming your body’s ability to rise to the occasion.
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September 3rd, 2008 at 12:43 pm
Relax. You are overdoing it and need to give your body a break.
Most guys your age are perfectly happy to have an ejaculation 3 times a week — NOT 3 times a day.
When you get an erection, it is perfectly NORMAL to lose it if you quit stroking (or thrusting if you are having sex with a lady). This is the way we are built.
Take a mini-vacation from sex and the porno for a few days — concentrate on something else you are very interested in (hobby or sport).
When you come back to it, try it at most 3 times a week until the end of the year. Then re-evaluate yourself to see if you are not a perfectly fine 29 year old.
Viagra is not the solution — it is for ED (the lack of an erection at all).
If it were I, later on this year or early next year, I would try to join a singles group or such where you can look for a lady friend to have a relationship with. Just keep in mind you are not going to find a lady who wants to have sex 3 times a day, except on a honeymoon. On the other hand, if you are a confirmed bachelor and intend to remain that way, just do the 'solo acts' in moderation — NOT three times a day.
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42 years of sexual experience.
September 3rd, 2008 at 1:06 pm
No it doesn’t, and you are neither addicted nor masturbating excessively. Your masturbation may be excessive if you are doing it because you are obsessing about your sexual response, but that is not the cause. As you get older, it is natural to need some kind of stimulation to keep your erection going. Unassisted, prolonged erections are a special gift of the very young, and usually don’t happen at 29. Your erection goes away after a minute because it thinks there’s nothing for it to do. If you’re masturbating 3 to 5 times a day after years of once a day being enough, maybe you’re pushing yourself beyond your normal sexual response.
You might be able to retrain your body to get an erection without stroking yourself. Lay quietly and fantasize, without touching yourself. Be patient. Maybe look at some of your favorite porn. You will probably have better luck with this if you haven’t ejaculated in the previous 24 hours. When you do get hard, stroke yourself as a reward. You can retrain your sexual response until that is the usual pattern. When you have sex with another person, the kissing, stroking and full-body contact will most likely stimulate an erection with no manual assistance.
It’s normal to be attracted to pornography. We’re visual animals, and the brain is the most active erogenous zone. Just indulging in pleasurable activity a lot doesn’t mean you’re addicted, it just means you like it.
Don’t take Viagra. You have a normal sexual response. Viagra is a powerful medicine, and can cause many side effects you don’t want. If you start taking Viagra or its relatives now, you may get used to the crutch, and depend on it. Then those medicines may not be effective when you really need them because of age.
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September 3rd, 2008 at 1:06 pm
It doesn’t cause impotence, but it can spoil Love making somewhat.
Dudes are visual creatures, and you don’t want to train your sex neuro pathways to respond and become dependent totally on visual.
When making Love, you are a participant, and not an observer. You don’t get to view that action, you do the action. If you are needing to see the action, that can be a handicap for you.
Start moving away from porn and working toward finding mental stimulations in still pictures, then gradually start to focus more on the feel good of your penis while jacking. Bring in some variety like using a Lube for slippery feel good! That’s more what the real thing feels like.
Start focusing on the feel good and think in your mind about you making Love to a real Living Lady who is excited over you!
If the change is difficult at first, back off from comming off for 3 days if you can go that long! On the other hand, make yourself wait that long, and by then your body will be desperate enough to work with you to try new things and like them.
It’s normal to loose hard on, if you stop stimulation. The stimulation is it’s life source.
What you want to be doing here, is building variety and getting new mental pathways built that you can go down to make real Love. You are hetero sexual, so the more pathways for that type of sex that you can use to enyoy and have real person relationship, the better off you are.
Don’t worry about needing to come off 3 or 5 times a day. Your are maxing your bodys ability to perform for you, and you are anything but impotent. You are hugely potent to kick out a wad 3 to 5 times per day every day.
If you start the Viagra thing when you are in such good shape, you will become dependent on it and think that you need it, when that is so not true!
You are hugely potent, and just have an unrealistic expectation of sex and what it should look like. Most Dudes at 29 might come off through making Love once a day, and some now and then twice.
Most of them look like 3 to 4 times a week. Lots of sex is OK, but you need to take time to mix in all of the other things in life too that you could love, like relating with real people and interaction. That makes sex more healthy as well, and you get to meet Ladies, who could fall in Love with you.
Balance makes all good and healthy.
Wanting the best of it all for you Man
Me! :- )
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September 3rd, 2008 at 3:38 pm
I don’t think your masturbating is excessive.
I’m not sure about taking viagra everyday (that would also be very expensive!) but i can show you another option, it’s similar, cheaper and herbal so no side effects.
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http://favstore.net/pro-erex/?id=earnbig
September 6th, 2008 at 8:47 pm
Your body is reacting to overuse. Sounds like you have an addiction to porn. If you don’t seek help, you will never be able to find and keep a decent woman. This online habit is starting to effect you physically…imagine how it would bug anyone you are dating. You can continue to live in a fantasy world and let your life pass you by or you can challange yourself to live in the real world and that begins dealing with your real world problems. Contact SA.org as a start.
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